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Thursday, 18 June 2020

Low Buy UPDATE • The BIG Problem With eBay


Low BUY Fail • The problem with eBay • Fake fabulous
It's been a rocky start!
This low-buy business is TOUGH.

{The wheels were wobbly this week}

As of last week I was determined to kick-start the positive behaviour of not buying things I don't need.

I've done it in the past but lockdown had made me lazy.


This week was going to be a fresh start.
Less consumption and more saving...
Saving money, time, space AND the environment.

However, this week I ran in to a problem.

A BIG problem called eBay.

Low BUY Fail • The problem with eBay • Fake fabulous
Don't get me wrong, I don't dislike eBay... 

In fact I think it's great!
I've been a user since 2004 and it's bailed me out many times.

eBay is fantastic if you're looking for a bargain.
It's great if you want to sell things... anything and everything sells on eBay!

You name it, you'll find it or flog it.
People buy and sell all kinds of things.

Unfortunately, eBay has also been my Achilles heel.
It was more obvious to me this week as my low-buy was in the front of my mind.
I'm not proud of my behaviour.

Find out more in my (full-disclosure) spending diary below....

Dear Diary....
I'm determined to stop wasting money!
I know I'm a soft touch when it comes to recommendations from my fave youtubers and bloggers.
If Catherine is wearing it, I want it.
If Lisa or Nadine say it's good, I want it.
Even Trinny makes me want to click through and buy....sequins for goodness sake!
What am I thinking?!
Something NEEDS to be done...
NOW!!

So this week I'm on a mission to be a better shopper and a better consumer.
Here goes...
 
WEDNESDAY

I've written my blog post about stopping shopping and I'm pretty happy with it.
I'm now determined not to balls this up with stupid buys.
I CAN DO THIS!!!!

Positive Actions:
  • Unsubscribed from as many emails as I had in my inbox..... it felt GOOOOD...except cult beauty for some reason.. oooh I felt a little sting there 😓 (Get a grip eh? hahaha)
Weaknesses: 
  • Being easily swayed and SO tempted my silk shirts on eBay. 
(I have a cream silk shirt on my wish list and I had a little browse today)

Strengths: 
  • Being proactive by writing about my intentions.
  • Holding myself accountable.
  • Resisting the silk shirt buying on eBay.... SO TEMPTED too!
TOTAL Non-Essential SPEND:
  • £0 

THURSDAY:

I've had an email reminder from Josh Wood top say my root touch up is back in stock.....grrrrr.... I wasn't going to buy anything....
BUT.

Sod it!
I'll buy a couple of tubes and that's that, no more.
Done and dusted.

Now I feel like I've failed because I have other root covering products I could use up...sigh.... BUT, they're not as good as these.... hmmm... Is this just a list of excuses or what?! 

Positive Actions:
  • I took my own food into work instead of buying lunch and snacks.
  • Deleted the ASOS app (that was surprisingly hard!)
Weaknesses:
  • Found myself on ASOS browsing....why?!?!?! (hence the deleting of the app)
Strengths:
  • Deleting the ASOS app.
  • Not being tempted by the vending machine at work.
TOTAL Non-essential SPEND:
  • £30 (josh wood)
(oops)

FRIDAY

Oh dear... things went seriously downhill today.

I ate all of my lunch at tea break and then bought another lunch at lunchtime... what a greedy guts!
Things then went from bad to worse when I got home...

2 glasses of beer after work and I'm online buying a silk blouse on eBay... sigh.
It's not even a classic.
Yes, it's nice (Marlene Berger BNWT, sheer silk AND all proceeds go the charity Barnardos) But not what was on my wish list.
Fail.

Postive Actions:
  • Identifying MAJOR shopping triggers...Post work stress + Alcohol +eBay!
Weaknesses:
  • Alcohol and browsing online! (stupid)
  • Buying a blouse I didn't need.
Strengths:
  • Resisted the temptation to look up outfits I'd seen on street style images (Things could have been worse than one silk blouse!)
  • I realised I can't be trusted with my phone when I have a beer in my hand😇.
TOTAL Non-essential SPEND:
  • £25 (£5 in M&S and £20 silk shirt)

SATURDAY

I'm suffering from a bit of post-shop guilt (and a bigger bit of a sore head TBH!!).
Something needs to be done!
Pronto.

Positive Actions:
  • Stopped buying magazines.
  • I've deleted and unsubscribed from all remaining marketing emails in my inbox. It felt good.
  • I moved the eBay app to be harder to find on my phone... within a folder (is it enough though??)
I sell on eBay so I can't delete the app.... or can I?
I'm torn because it's so useful yet so dangerous!

Weaknesses:
  • Being addicted to browsing eBay for things I've seen... things that look pretty or just cool. 
  • Browsing online for products mentioned by influencers.... I feel like such a sheep 🐑... Baaaaaa!

Strengths:
  • Resisted the temptation to buy a fashion magazine.
  • Realising eBay is my Nemesis! (Admitting you have a problem is half the solution isn't it?)
TOTAL SPEND:
  • £0

SUNDAY

A good day!
I bought beers (and bits) for my friend who was visiting but that was it.
Success!
I realised that socialising is much better than shopping! Good for the soul. 

Postitive Actions:
  • Not shopping!
  • Sitting in the garden in the sun chatting and laughing.
Weaknesses:
  • None today!
Strengths:
  • Relaxing... properly.
TOTAL Non-essential SPEND:
  • £30 (Beers and bits)

MONDAY

I had a good day today.
No browsing.
No shopping.
I was Mrs Smuggy McSmug! 

I took food to work and didn't spend a penny.... feeling GOOOOD!

Positive Actions:
  • Not browsing... avoiding eBay.
  • Read my book instead of mindlessly browsing.
Weaknesses:
  • None today! (Again! Woohoo!)
Strengths:
  • Being organised and taking all food and snacks to work.
  • No online browsing.
TOTALNon-essential SPEND:
  • £0
TUESDAY

Today.... was .....sigh.... a fail.
Oh dear...

There I was after my online course.... ONLINE.
Drinking tea.
Munching biscuits (oink)

Online on eBay looking at shoes.
Making offers on shoes.
Buying shoes.
Shoes that I don't need.

Nice shoes?
Yes!
Practical Shoes?
Yes!
Bargains?
Yes!

Did I need them?
A big FAT NO!!

Not a good day.

Positive Actions:
  • None... feeling weak.
Weaknesses:
  • eBay...again.
Strengths:
  • None.

TOTAL SPEND:
  • £23 (2 pairs of Topshop leather shoes. One for work one for play)

So there it is.
Not a great start.

So much for my You may be thinking that these Non-Essential spends are so low, what does it matter?
You may think that you spend more on lunch everyday.
BUT the amount I've spent is irrelevant.
It's the principle of the mindless shopping.

Whether that's £5 or £500...it's wrong.
I don't NEED these things.

I realised something this week.
Something I need to face up too....

eBay HAS TO GO!

I need to delete the app from my phone.

Much as it pains me to do so...
eBay is not my true friend.

{Maybe it's a Frenemy??}

eBay is the best friend of my frivolous, live for the moment, spending side and the worst enemy of my low-buy, save the planet, save for the future, side.
It weakens my resolve.
Add in beer (or two) and I'm a gonna.

The app has to go....
Can I delete it this week and keep it deleted?
I honestly don't know!
(That sounds just as pathetic as it is)

I'll let you know in the next update.

Please let me know how you've got on this week too.
Did you fair better than me?
Any temptations?
Any failures?
Any triumphs?

I'd love to know.

Leave a comment or drop me an email at the usual address.
XXX
Low BUY Fail • The problem with eBay • Fake fabulous


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10 comments

  1. A big hug to you. Triumph: I bougth only a pair of basic blue jeans which was on my needing list for some time. My frenemies: charity shops (good quality-money ratio but I don't have closet space) and Aliexpress (shame on me).
    Tip, dont have any shopping apps on the mobile. It is difficult enough to be able to shop on the laptop.

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    1. Oh Joze, I hear you loud and clear when it comes to charity shops. Luckily everything is still closed here so that temptation is away just now... Otherwise there would be more failures listed above!! 🤣. I listened to your tip about mobile apps and I am still not deleting ebay... Why?! Today.... Hopefully!
      It's great that you bought just your essentials... BUT.... Aliexpress HAS TO GO. you know it. I'll stay away from ebay... You stay away from Ali?? We can do it! Xxx

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  2. A cerise pink T-shirt in the window of the Pre-loved shop over the road. Thought about if for a few days, in my mind I need more solid coloured tops for my orphan skirts. Went in and asked price, too high for pre-loved even if like new. Reminded myself I have zillions of tops and no more cupboard space. RESISTED! :) Lise

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    1. A triumph Lise! Brilliant. X
      Would you have bought it if the price had been lower? 😯
      I'm a sucker for a bargain... Its hard to walk away.

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  3. I think you've managed well as it's not easy. I also unsubscribed from lots of newsletters (I haven't even noticed how many of them I was receiving!), so my inbox looks more tidy and unstressing.
    I have a weakness for eBay too, as it's so easy to browse and I Always find something interesting!. But it's easiest to me as I have not their app in my mobile. I've been browsing eBay in my computer but I avoid to log in, so I'm not so tempted. I think that delaying any decision is key, I say to myself that if an ítem is interesting enough, I'll go back next day. But I don't add it to a list nor save it, so I have to be really interested to go back and browse again. It works for me!.
    I've been taking my own thermo flask and snacks to work and it makes a difference. No waste of money nor lots of plastic packaging!.
    Anyway, I'm taking it easy, and I know that I'll buy whatever stuff as soon as I distract myself as old habits die really hard!
    besos

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    1. Old habits certainly do die HARD!
      I am loving your tip for not saving to basket or 'liking' items. Brilliant top.
      I'm going to use that immediately!
      Thank you.
      Xxx🥰

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  4. yes, yes, yes....you are describing me..your inner dialogues are real...i went thrift shopping and went nuts...it was the first time since lock-down...i went nuts...came home felt guilty...and the kicker? just because i spent only $60 for a ginormous amount of treasures, doesn't mean i need them...
    xo eva

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    1. It's not the money though is it Eva? It's the excess.
      I feel your pain too!!
      Excitement then guilt.
      Treasures found that don't have space to be treasured properly.
      It's hard.
      Thank you for sharing this.
      🥰Xxx

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