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Monday, 22 April 2019

8 Steps to Unique and Effortless Chic

8 Steps to unique and effortless chic | Fake Fabulous

Effortless chic.
It has to be the ultimate style goal, doesn't it?

(I'm guessing that if you've clicked on this post then it's probably something that interests you.)

I love that stylish vibe that some people emanate.
The art of looking like you've thrown on your clothes and they just happen to fall beautifully into place.

There are many effortlessly stylish women that I admire.
Some have their own style.
Some have someone creating their style for them but still look great.

I'm well aware that most celebrities have stylists and amazing resources at their disposal that create that 'effortless' look.

I also know that many women copy other people's outfits to create the look they want.
Fair play to them.

The women I really admire are those who create a look that is unique to them.
A look that feels real.

Effortless dressing tips are all over the internet.
More often than not these tips involve words like...

  • Minimal.
  • Classic.
  • Clean lines.
  • Neutrals.
  • Monochrome.


These things can look amazing if you suit those kinds of clothes.
Or, if you are after that "French girl" chic or even the cookie-cutter-insta-babe look.

BUT,
What if you love a bit of colour?
Or a pattern?
Or, even better, a clash of patterns and a riot of colours?

Is it possible to look effortless with an individual personality?

Style tips for effortless chic.


{Before I make a start on these tips I must tell you that I am certainly no style angel.
I'm guilty as charged of many fashion crimes.
I've worn countless questionable outfits and had loads of fun doing it!
Personal style is exactly that... personal.
Fashion is supposed to make us feel good and be enjoyable.
If you disagree with any (or all) of my tips that's fine with me!}

1. Don't overdo it with your Hair (or Makeup).

This is THE element that can transform an outfit from chic to cheap (or vice versa) in a heartbeat.

When I look at chic outfits (or chic women) it's often the hair and makeup that makes or breaks a look for me.

And, much as I hate to say it, as we get older overdone hair and makeup does more damage to our look than it did in our 20's.


  • Bad stripey highlights.
  • Brassy dye jobs.
  • Rock-solid hairstyles (unless it's a spiked crop)
  • Over straightened bobs and/or fringes.
  • Too-Perfect curls.


Pair these bad dos with a cake face and....ugh... you've added 15 years to your look in 5 (or probably more like 50) minutes.

Take instead...
A tousled wave.
A casual tuck behind the ear.
A thrown-up topknot.
A mussed up pixie.
Add a dewy skin and a red lip, or a softly smokey eye and a slick of lip gloss and wow.... one chic lady!


2. Chose Comfort.

Comfort is KEY.
There is nothing effortless (or chic) about being uncomfortable.
Sore feet from bad shoes or a body that's being squeezed, restricted and squashed by shapewear?
It shows on your face.

Comfort is so important.
This applies to both physical and mental comfort.

Which brings me to my next two points...

3. Only real love will do.

Loving a look simply because you love it on someone else (or in a magazine advert) is NOT enough.

You MUST love your clothes and they must love you back.
Anything you pull out of your wardrobe should make you feel good.
Anything you wear should make you look good.

Donate anything that doesn't fit or makes you feel bad about yourself.
Clothes that depress you NEED to go.
Anything you use to hide behind (or blend into the background with) needs to go.

Opening a wardrobe should make us feel empowered.
Creative.
Equipt to put the best version of ourselves forward.
Ready to face the challenges of the day.

Opening a wardrobe to items that remind us of how much weight we've gained over the years (or lost) is not good for our mental well-being.
Be ruthless with depressing clothes.
You deserve to be happy every time those wardrobe doors open.

4. Buy Quality

Always pick quality fabrics over cheap polyester.
Quality fabrics not only look better.
Wash better.
Wear better.
Feel better (on the body).
Last longer.

They're also better for the planet.

Don't even get me started on cheap shoes!
Cheap shoes ruin an outfit.

Quality doesn't need to be expensive.
Scour those discount websites and charity shops.
Cashmere, Wool, Leather, Silk and suede are all there waiting to be discovered!

5. Avoid obvious LABELS and LOGOS.

This might ruffle a few feathers BUT flashy status-symbol labels can certainly cheapen an outfit.
Especially if there's a whole load of big-name logos piled up together.


  • The LV bag.
  • The Gucci belt.
  • The Chanel earrings.


By "cheapen" I don't mean 'cheap'.
Everyone knows these pieces cost a pretty penny.
By cheap I mean tacky.
"Look how much money I have.... LOOK EVERYONE!!"
Obvious wealth flashing is not stylish.
It's distasteful.

Of course, if you're buying the big brands for the quality then go for it (I'm eyeing up a pair of Prada pumps for that reason) but reign in the brash logos.

The most stylish women I know don't need a big logo to validate their position in the style stakes.

6. Use your Local Tailor

Whatever you own will look (and feel) 100X better if it fits your body properly.
Forget about the body you once had or the body you're going to have.
Dress the body you have just now.
Today.

A tailor will make your clothes fit like a glove and feel great.
In turn, you will look great...
Get the idea?!

7. Forget the Rules!

BORING rules make me yawn.
When I was looking around the internet for other people's opinions on effortless dressing almost every post I read (and every video I watched) talked about...

  • Neutrals.
  • Monochrome.
  • Black.
  • Plain.
  • Simple.
  • Clean lines.
  • Classic accessories.
  • White shirts.
  • Camel coats.... etc, etc, etc...


COME ON PEOPLE!
I'm falling asleep here.

I'm bored to tears with generic outfits worn by women that all want to look the same.
Give me some colour!
Some personality.
Some oomph!!

Do your own BOLD thing.
Clash if you want to.

Many of the stylish women I admire you'll already know well... find them on my sidebar under blogs I love.

Why not check out these effortless women you may (or may not) know.
They have an amazing bold style with buckets of personality!

ELA @stilblock
Norbyah @imanorbyah

8. Dress like a ghost!

This last point is supposed to be a bit of fun BUT it's not a bad thought to hold onto...

Each day you get dressed think to yourself:

"If I die today am I happy with this outfit as my 'forever' outfit?"

If you had to spend the rest of eternity in one outfit would you be happy for your ghost to be wearing what you have on at this moment?

If the answer is "NO!" you might want to go and change!

The moral of this story is to put your best foot forward each day.

Bonus Style tip:
Irons, lint rollers and wool combs.
Never underestimate the power of grooming.
Forget spending time on perfecting that unflattering helmet hair.
Use your time to make sure what you are wearing is clean, pressed and bobble free!

What do YOU think?

How do you define effortless style?
What about labels and logos?
Do you think I'm talking rubbish and LOVE to flash them?

Please share your thoughts... you know I love to read them!
XXX
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15 comments

  1. I agree 100%! At 58, I cannot be bothered by makeup or hair care - I get a cut twice a year, lately it's an asymmetric bob, and that's it. No logos. Just quality clothes in colors that make me happy - lots of purples, blues and reds - with interesting jewellery, some of which I make myself. Comfy but stylish shoes and fun bags. I very much like your spirit and your last point! Will ask myself every day going forward whether my ghost would be happy in the day's outfit. ��

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    1. That's FAB to hear Ramit!
      It sounds like you're having fun with your style.... and so you should.
      I really hope the ghost outfit makes you smile and have EVEN more fun experimenting!! :oD
      Thank you so much for your lovely comment.
      XXX

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  2. I totally agree with you and think that your advice is really well written and expressed!. Love particularly the ideas of looking for the comfort, the quality and The Love! and obviously Forget The f*ck#n' Rules!. I hate all the advice on buying a lbd, a white shirt and a beige trench to dress like a 'french girl'. Well, french girls come in all shapes and sizes (as usual!) and lots of them wear whatever they like which is not a boring white shirt!.
    besos

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    1. You know that you're my favourite colourful and matched up yet still effortless blogger Monica!
      I wouldn't recognise you in a neutral palette or any of those boring classics.
      French girl chic is fabulous BUT nothing is as beautiful as someone with a love of colour and the ability to express themselves... making other people happy too!!
      XXX

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  3. Hmmm, my ghost outfit. You've got me thinking. While I can't dress EVERY day in my favorite "forever" outfit, I CAN make a note of it in my closet, that THAT'S the dress to bury me in. I already have a folder on my computer desktop filled with MY choice of pictures for the funeral party.

    Trust me, I can take ANY topic and turn it morbid :-)

    I do agree on everything else, but....I get that not all of us are AS creative thinking as others, and sometimes we don't know what we like til we see it on someone else...and several dozen times, at that! So I cut myself (and others) a little slack in that department. But it is always on my mind to TRY and be creative/different/outside the box...even when I struggle to just find SOMETHING, ANYTHING to fit!

    And it's so funny how it plays out...one person DOES wear something truly trail-blazing and shows it on social...THOUSANDS of people see it, many of them thinking, that's AMAZING! SO CREATIVE and DIFFERENT! I'm going to do that same thing and be different, too! And before you know it, that truly one-of-a-kind look has gone round the world and been worn by umpteen others and is now just another formulaic uniform. I don't know if you can stop it!

    But it WOULD be nice, just once, to be the FIRST one wearing it :-)

    Bettye
    https://fashionschlub.com

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    1. I love this comment Bettye... you're spot on with your thoughts on originality and how original becomes mainstream.
      That's how I feel about the long-blonde-neutral-toned-boho-babe look.
      Boho used to be a unique vibe but it's now all over the internet.
      Boring.
      Having said that... I don't recall seeing a SINGLE PERSON in real life that looks like that.
      When I do a spot of people watching (or "research for my blog" as I like to call it ;oP) I'm always looking at outfits and combinations and what makes someone look good and another look drab or dowdy.
      People are fascinating don't you think?
      Thank you so much for this comment!
      XXX

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  4. I loved to read this post. That's why I hate jeans okay twice a year I wear one, everybody wears jeans here!

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    1. Hahahahaha... fair enough Nancy!
      I can't recall seeing you in a pair now you mention it!!
      I guess you're always dressed in a unique way compared to people round about you?
      I feel the same... although I LOVE jeans and would wear them all of the time (maybe?).
      XXX

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  5. You really nailed many of the beliefs I have about fashion as a creative outlet and the guidelines that are helpful for maintaining a unique but classy look.
    Going overboard with makeup is such a BIG mistake. I just don't get how an overdone face appeals to some women.

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    1. You know Jude, I often think it's because we can't see as well as we get older!
      It sounds silly but I think people pile more and more on because it looks okay in the mirror.
      I'm guilty of wearing too much sometimes... usually when I'm in a rush... but recently I'm checking my 10X magnification mirror on a regular basis.
      Over 45 with a pancake face adds another 20 years!
      Shudder.
      BUT I honestly believe that the worst culprit is a crispy-hairdo... or the over dyed, over-tonged, over-processed hairstyle.
      I love seeing a tousle, a wave, a bed-head.... hints of an interesting life!
      Much more chic than lego hair :oP
      XXX

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    2. I agree with your point about hair Sam. Hair needs to move!! "Hints of an interesting life" is a perfect description! "Lego hair!" You're so funny!!! :-0

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  6. SO many fantastic points here Samantha!! I love the ghost theory, and I agree with you 100% about the [yawn] Gucci belts - you can add Bella Freud 1970 sweaters to that list...! #eyeroll

    Colour and pattern for me, like you, is my lifeline - I couldn't live without it. People who love their clothes and love getting dressed up are like catnip to me: I don't have to love their style per se, it's about loving their enthusiasm for being creative. Long live crazy colours and pattern mixing!!! ;)

    Fabulous post, sweetie!

    Catherine x

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    1. I hear you Catherine!
      I LOVE seeing a splash of colour on the streets of Glasgow.
      If I see a stylish lady I've been know to chase her down to ask where she got her coat or to tell her that her hair is amazing.
      People are always delighted.
      I find it SO funny that those 1970 jumpers are ALL OVER the internet but I've never seen one of the jumpers IRL.
      Never.
      Not even in the cities (Edinburgh or Glasgow).
      So, where are they?
      Are they all in London on the young and beautiful?
      Maybe noone in Scotland has time for a jumper that doesn't actually keep out the winter chills?
      I don't know. :oP
      Thank you so much for popping over to leave such a fab comment!
      XXX

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  7. I love this!! It's funny because I've been saying that when we are younger, we all wanted to look alike and have the same items. But now that we are older and better, we should want to stand out. Be ourselves, and enjoy our differences!!!
    Loved this!!
    XOOX
    Jodie

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  8. YAY Jodie!
    I'm so glad you agree.
    "Older and Better".... I LOVE.
    (I might quote you on that!)
    When I was a teen I remember crying because I had to wear a jacket from the local market and I desperately wanted one from a REAL shop.
    I dreamed of Chelsea girl!
    Now, I would much prefer to find a fabulous find on a market stall.
    Much more fun!
    Thank you for your wonderful comment.
    XXX

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