Believe in you!

Sunday, 15 September 2019

Am I too old for HIIT training & Les Mills Grit? Over 40 Fitness

Am I too old for HIIT | Les Mills GRIT over 40 | Fake Fabulous

So there I was...
A 40-something mother heading into my first Les Mills Grit class.

How was I feeling?

Well, If I'm being perfectly honest I was something-that-rhymes-with-grit-ing myself!

A strangely addictive mixture of terror and excitement.
What was in store for me?
Could my 45-year-old puny body handle it?
Would I make it to the end without having to cry, pass out or vomit?

A class like GRIT has a bit of a scarey reputation.
The uber-fit, beautiful (and young) people seem to love it.
Was it for me?
Am I too-old for Les Mills GRIT?

Would I make a right GRIT of myself?
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Wednesday, 11 September 2019

Goodbye Summer, Hello Autumn | 7 Favourite Summer Looks

7 Favourite Scottish Summer Outfits | Over 40 style and fashion | Fake Fabulous

It feels VERY Autumnal here in Scotland.
Okay, it's not officially Autumn until the 23rd of September BUT Scotland has been given an advance on that date!
I think of it as a payday loan... it comes a little earlier, but we pay the price later.
(In thermals!)

Don't get me wrong here folks...I LOVE autumn.
It's my favourite season.

I love its changeability.
Its unpredictability.
Its riot of delicious colour.
The wild wind, the cold mornings... even the rain.
Rain and sunshine at the same moment means a beautiful rainbow!
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Sunday, 8 September 2019

Green Sleeves and a Leather skirt | Autumn Outfit

Green Blouse and a Leather Skirt | Autumn Style | Fake Fabulous

Today I'm styling a classic vintage leather skirt with an interesting blouse.
What I love about this particular blouse are the neat little collar and the puffy sleeve.
I also appreciate the fact that this sleeve is practical and wearable.
There is no drooping in the washing up or trailing through my dinner.

{It's a full sleeve with a 'proper' cuff that can be rolled up or pushed up... something I love to do.}

More structural sleeves than this are more fun to wear, but not if you can't live your life in them!

Green Blouse and a Leather Skirt | Autumn Style | Fake Fabulous

I also LOVE this shade of green.
That perfect golden undertone.
Very autumny.
Delicious!

I know I've talked about the problem with green before (read that post HERE) but that doesn't stop me loving it.
(Even more so in autumn)

Another autumn must-have (for me) is a little leopard print.
Just a touch today.

These boots are always perfect!

Green Blouse and a Leather Skirt | Autumn Style | Fake Fabulous

Adding a black bag finished things off nicely.

I'm holding this bag like a clutch here but I actually wore it across my body with its long chain.
I'm only holding it here because I took off my coat.
Bags over soft fabrics always makes for a crumpled mess and I don't need any help with that.
I'm pretty good at ending up a crumpled mess all by myself!

Green Blouse and a Leather Skirt | Autumn Style | Fake Fabulous

MAKE IT YOUR OWN:

This outfit is easy to create using items you already own and love.
Everyone has a shirt lurking in their wardrobe.
Try rolling the sleeves and tucking it in.
You could even unbutton it low and pull the shirt off your shoulders for a unique look.

Swapping out this leather skirt for leather trousers or culottes would be perfect too.

Any leather (or leather-look) items would look amazing.
If you have the pins why not try leather shorts?


SKIRT: Vintage (similar)
SHIRT: Mango (old)
BOOTS: older than an old thing.
BAG: A gift
OBI BELT: Old

OTHER LEATHER SKIRTS YOU MIGHT LIKE:



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Tuesday, 3 September 2019

How to Deal with Dark Circles... the truth!

How to deal with Dark Circles... the truth! Fake Fabulous

Have you ever opened a magazine ready to enjoy a bit of page flicking only to be confronted by a seemingly innocent article that leaves you lost for words?

This happened to me today.

I opened a popular magazine and came across this headline:

Cover up Dark Circles

Oh, this one's for me!
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Saturday, 31 August 2019

Bold and Colourful Smart Casual Autumn Outfit!

Classic, Bold and Colourful | Smart Casual Autumn Outfit

What a title, eh?
Try and say that fast ten times!

But that's exactly what this is.

A colourful outfit that's smart and bold.
Perfect for late summer into autumn.

This outfit was for a busy day where I had to look smart (enough) but still be comfortable.
What could be easier than a pencil skirt, nude wedges and a simple Breton?
Simple?
Yes.
But what about boring?
Maybe a little too 'classic'?
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Tuesday, 27 August 2019

Colourful Transitional Outfit | Midi skirt and Deconstructed Jumper

Transitional Outfit | Midi Skirt in Autumn | Fake Fabulous

What on earth is a deconstructed jumper?!

Well, THIS ARTICLE from Harpers Bazaar will show you and they do look cool.
BUT.
And it's a BIG BUT.
All of the jumpers featured are VERY expensive.

Too expensive.

I love the look, but I would never spend £500+ on a jumper.
(One is over £1700!!)
Even if it was the finest cashmere.
Even if it was a wear-forever-classic.

For a 'Fashionable' jumper like these? NO WAY!!
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Thursday, 22 August 2019

SHOP less STYLE more! | Re-style your Wardrobe Turkeys!

Shop less and Style more | Silver maxi and cream camisole | Fake Fabulous

This silver skirt is one of those pieces that should be getting worn and worn ... on repeat.
It has all the hallmarks of a classic go-to item in my wardrobe.

  • A great multi-seasonal maxi cut... perfect shape from summer into winter.
  • A sturdy(ish) and fully-lined fabric.
  • A fabulous neutral (yet bold) colour... silver goes with everything!
  • Plenty of personality, shine and swish.
BUT...
It's a bit of a wardrobe turkey.

No offence to our wattled friends but this skirt is challenging me when it comes to styling.

Shop less and Style more | Silver maxi and cream camisole | Fake Fabulous

The only time I've felt really fabulous in it was HERE... and that's a Halloween costume!
{Not exactly a ringing fashion endorsement.}

I've worn it HERE with a black and silver jumper and HERE with lots of BLUE.
(I miss the silver trainers in that silver/blue outfit!)

However, it's not been worn enough.

I'm determined to shop less and style more this year so this skirt is going to get forced (yep, I said forced!) into various outfits whether it likes it or not.

To be honest with you it feels refreshing to make myself wear items that have been doing too much lurking and not enough working.

It's a shame to keep this silver skirt hidden away so today it's coming for a late-summer outing with a simple camisole.

Shop less and Style more | Silver maxi and cream camisole | Fake Fabulous

Adding a pair of converse keeps that casual feeling going.

Shop less and Style more | Silver maxi and cream camisole | Fake Fabulous

SKIRT: old... charity shopped but originally from M&S.
TOP: Also years old... from George at Asda.
SHOES: Missoni at Converse... charity shopped too (Read about them HERE)
BAG: older than time itself... originally Topshop I think!
NECKLACES:  A gift.
COAT: Topshop (also old....surprise surprise!)

The rain came on again as we took these photos highlighting the fact that this fabric is not so great in the rain.
Every drop shows up!
The good thing is that it dries really quickly and doesn't mark.
Swings and roundabouts eh?

Shop less and Style more | Silver maxi and cream camisole | Fake Fabulous

Which Wardrobe Lurkers do you need to dig out and re-style this season?
Please share the offenders in the comments... or send me a DM!
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Tuesday, 20 August 2019

Bloated Belly Outfit Formula | Culottes, Camisole and a Long Waistcoat

Bloated Belly Outfit | Culottes, Camisole and Long Waistcoat

This outfit is a classic formula that I turn to time and time again.
It's the perfect "Beat the Bloat" outfit for those days when you're feeling a bit, how can I put it?
Flabby?!

Maybe it's all about the hormones?
Or a large lunch?
Maybe it's post-holiday podge?
A pregnancy you'd rather not disclose?
Or maybe your body has changed due to the menopause?

Whatever the reason, this outfit formula could be your best friend.
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Sunday, 18 August 2019

DIY Home Facial | Over 40 Home SPA

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

Today, I'm sharing an easy DIY facial/spa regime.
The routine is easy to follow and you can use products you already own.

No need to buy a thing.
How good is that?

Let's go!

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

1:  PREPARE

It's so much more relaxing and enjoyable if you get fully prepared before you start.
Make sure you're not going to be disturbed.
Pop on an old top or get changed into your PJs and a dressing gown/robe.
Make sure you're warm enough and super-duper-comfortable.

Tie your hair up and pop on a comfy headband.
Collect EVERYTHING you need and lay it all out on an old towel.
Have plenty of old flannels (or a towel) to hand for patting your face dry and wiping your hands.

Light a scented candle.
Turn off your phone.

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

2: DOUBLE CLEANSE

Cleanse off any makeup using your regular facial oil/cream cleanser/balm or whatever you usually use.
Give your face a good massage while you're at it using upward strokes.
Be gentle with your eyes.

Once your makeup and/or the grime of the day is gone, give your face a good second cleanse with a cleanser you can remove using water.

3:  EXFOLIATE

Exfoliation is key.
You can use a ready-made facial scrub but avoid those containing microbeads AT ALL COSTS!

A homemade scrub works a treat too.
You can mix castor sugar with honey for a simple scrub.

I use a muslin cloth and a spot of cleanser.
It's rough enough to slough those cells but gentle enough not to scratch.

Rinse your face thoroughly and gently pat dry.

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

4: STEAM

This step can be skipped if you don't enjoy it BUT if you love that feeling of steam 'opening' your pores then go for it!

You can simply use a hot cloth (a flannel works perfectly) placed over the face for a few seconds or pop your head over a bowl of hot water (draping a towel over your head can increase the intensity of the steam).
OR... if you are a fancy pants (like me) you can use a facial steamer.

This one is about 25 years old and still going strong.

Steam your face for about 5 minutes.
Adding a couple of drops of your favourite essential oil makes the experience feel even more special.
Lavender is a great one to start with.

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

5: Get the TOOLS out

This step can be skipped if you have dry and/or perfectly clear skin.

However, if you do have stray brow hairs/tash hairs or clogged pores then get stuck in!

I love to spend a few seconds immediately after steam using an extractor tool to remove any excess sebum/blocked pores around my nose, on my chin and between my eyes.

Using a 10x mirror press firmly on the areas you need to clear and watch the magic happen.
It's very satisfying.

BE VERY CAREFUL when using an extraction tool and make sure it is spotlessly clean.
I boil mine in a small pan of salted water after each use.

{NOTE: Extracting can be addictive. Don't overdo it.}

Next, I get the tweezers and facial razor out.
A little brow tidy and tash trim is always a good idea!

See more about embarrassing facial hair HERE.

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

6: MASK TIME!

This is my favourite part.

First and foremost I want to tell you about my shameful eyemask buying experience.

I naively bought a pack of 50 eyemasks online thinking they would be packaged together in a resealable bag and reasonably eco-friendly.

To my horror, each is wrapped in an individual plastic wrap and I'm not feeling good about it.
I like the little masks themselves BUT the packaging is leaving a sour taste in my mouth and I DEFINITELY won't be re-ordering.
(Hangs head in shame)

I normally use a couple of (used) tea bags that have been kept in the fridge OR good old cucumber slices and I'll be returning to these next time.

As for the rest of the face...
I like to apply different masks to different areas.

My T-zone is oily and can become congested.
I'm not acne prone but I do turn a bit greasy by the end of the day so I use a pore-unclogging mask on my T-zone (forehead nose and chin) and a nourishing mask on my (normal) cheeks.

It's easy peasy to make your own mask too.

Honey (on its own) is perfect for everyone to use or you can add a little yoghurt or mashed banana to the honey for a little extra.
A crushed strawberry mixed with honey makes a fantastic brightening mask for dull skin.

Using a brush to apply your masks feels very decadent and special.

(Remember to apply the mask to your neck and back of your hands)

Leave your mask(s) on for 15-20 minutes.

Lie back and chill out.
{Bliss}

Rinse well.

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

7: TONE

You can use your usual toner here.
Or just splash your face with cool water.

I spray a little mist onto my face at this point then add a little hyaluronic acid.

DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

8: MASSAGE

I LOVE this bit too!

Using any facial oil (or good old olive oil) give your face a massage.
Massage not only feels great but works wonders at reducing puffiness.

Check this video out for a 1-minute gua sha massage:

{You can obviously take as long as you like)


If you don't have a Gua Sha tool then check out this fab video from my favourite makeup artist:


DIY at home Facial Spa Routine | Fake Fabulous Beauty

9: FINISHING TOUCHES

Slap on the moisturizer.
Use whatever moisturizer you love and go heavy-handed.
Slather it on and make sure you cover your neck, decollate and hands.

To finish off use your usual eye cream and add a nourishing balm to your lips.
I use 8-hour cream and also moisturize my brows and lashes with it!

(I can't recommend using it on lashes and brows BUT it works for me.)

Make sure you don't have to go anywhere anytime soon and avoid makeup for as long as possible.

I'd love to hear how you get on!




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Thursday, 15 August 2019

Is Fashion Blogging Vain, Shallow and Narcissistic?

Is Fashion Blogging Vain, Shallow and Narcissistic? Fake Fabulous

Oh.... this is a great question, isn't it?

The other day I received a DM on social media from a woman who made handbags.
She was complimenting me on my appearance (and blog) and I thanked her and asked her to send me an email.
I assumed she wanted to promote her business and had a collaboration proposal.

{I NEVER do business via DMs on Insatgram/Twitter/ Facebook. Only via email.}

Anyway.
She did email me.... and my jaw dropped.
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Sunday, 11 August 2019

Warm Tone Monochrome Outfit | Mixing Reds Burgundy and Orange

Culottes Outfit | Over 40 street style | Fake Fabulous | Monochrome

This outfit makes me think of late summer.
Warm and rich tones.
A cosy glow.

Perfect for right now.
Perfect as we move into the cooler months too.

Simply add boots (maybe tights if your climate calls for them) and an extra layer and/or a warmer jacket to make this autumn-ready.
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Wednesday, 31 July 2019

10 Great Summer Fake Fabulous Reads

10 Perfect Summer Reads | Fake Fabulous

I'm taking a long-overdue break from the blogosphere... 3 weeks in total... and it feels so good (if a little strange!).
It's weird to be removed from the digital world, and my online blogging family, BUT it needs to be done from time-to-time.
Having time off stops us from having a digital meltdown.
Hopefully, my time away will leave me feeling full ideas and ZING!

I've decided to drop in halfway through my break to leave you with a few links that you might enjoy reading.
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Tuesday, 16 July 2019

Man Repelling Outfit | All-Green Summer Outfit

All green man-repelling summer outfit | Fake Fabulous

Today's outfit is a real man-repeller!
I'm mixing a whole host of dubious designs together and it's certainly not to everyone's taste.

Some will find this outfit fun.
Others...how can I put this?...
Awkward?
Ugly even?

Boring Disclaimer: 
Obviously, this post is supposed to be a bit of fun and not meant to be taken seriously.
I'm not saying ALL men hate the colour green, or chunky platform shoes, or baggy ruffles etc. etc. etc.
Bottom line is: If you're easily offended you'd better read something else.
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Sunday, 14 July 2019

Summer OOTD | Shorts over 40 | Ugly Knees

Blue blazer, white slogan tee and beige shorts | Over 40 OOTD

Knees are ugly.
There, I've said it!

I know, I know.... we're all meant to be on the body positivity train...
BUT.

Even the loveliest of legs and the prettiest of knees are still, well.... knees!

Knobbly.
Bobbly.
Lumpy.
And that's just the young and beautiful people!

Then we hit forty and...

Oh Lordy Lord... what just happened?

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Wednesday, 10 July 2019

Last minute outfit | Summer Style

Long Khaki Culottes |Summer Outfit | Fake Fabulous

This outfit was a last-second-throw-on look for an impromptu afternoon/evening out.
I was going out for a mixture of (minimal) shopping AND lots of nonsense.
(One or two dirty martinis may have been involved.)

Needless to say, I had a great time!

This outfit was a last-minute throw on and, much like my emergency I've-slept-in outfit, needed minimal thought!

{Read more about an emergency outfit HERE}

All I did was grab a selection of pieces that I love and have never let me down.

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Sunday, 7 July 2019

Forget the Zara spotty IT dress! | Unique style |1980's Vibes

Forget the IT dress | 80s style | Summer Outfit | Fake Fabulous

What a fun look this is!
A nod to the '80s but easy to wear and super-comfortable.
Perfect for a casual evening out.

This Jacket was originally a dress that I found in a charity shop.
A sad looking dress with a broken full-length zip and a saggy bum.
Out came the scissors and 'Voila!' a  unique denim jacket with oodles of personality.

Wearing unique clothing is very important to me.
The thought of having the same look as everyone else fills me with dread.

Take the latest IT dresses... like that spotty one from Zara.
If you live in the UK you probably know which dress I'm talking about.
You might even have it hanging in your wardrobe!

This spotty dress...
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Tuesday, 2 July 2019

Vintage 1950s dress | Summer Outfit

Vintage 1950s Summer Dress Outfit | Fake Fabulous

This dress is definitely a little bit cutesy and twee.
Oh-so-twee and oh-so-sweet.
Oh, how I LOVE IT!
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Wednesday, 26 June 2019

Boyfriend Jeans & Light Mac | Cool Summer Outfit

Pale blue boyfriend jeans and a lightweight trench | Fake Fabulous

After 4 years of blogging, we're finally going on location!
We went on a reccy (reconnaissance mission) to a local beauty/tourist spot to find out if it could be a practical venue for us to take some outfit shots in the future.

I thought I'd share the outfit I wore, not because it's particularly 'wow' but it is a great comfortable and casual look.

{Although thong sandals are NOT great on hilly cobbled streets.
My feet were slipping around and it wasn't pretty...ouch!}

This outfit may not be the prettiest, granted, but it was practical for this cool summer day in Scotland!
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Monday, 24 June 2019

Pale Grey Jumpsuit & Tan | Summer Work Outfit

Pale grey jumpsuit, tan necklace and sandals | Fake Fabulous | Summer outfit

I love mixing warm and cool tones together.
They make both feel more wearable and modern.

Today I'm wearing a pale grey jumpsuit with tan shoes and a chunky necklace.
A tan bag would feel a little too matchy-matchy for my liking.
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Thursday, 20 June 2019

Vintage Dotty Dress and a Summer Trilby

Trilby Hat | Vintage Summer Polka Dots | Summer Outfit | Fake Fabulous

Do you wear hats in summer?
I'm wearing one of my favourites today.
A compact summer trilby.

This particular one is a gent's hat.
I need to buy my hats from the men's department because ladies hats are always too small.
They perch on top of my head in a comedic style.

It can be annoying, especially when the gent's hats are mostly sombre and the ladies versions have much more colour!

Having said that, gent's hats are often better quality.

Why is that?
I'm not sure.
I think it's often true with gent's clothes too.
Maybe the men in our lives don't accept poor quality and therefore it doesn't sell?

I'd love to know your thoughts on that!
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Tuesday, 18 June 2019

Red Lips and Dark Lipstick | Makeup fun over 40!

Dark lipstick and red lippy over 40 | Fake Fabulous

Today I'm doing something a little different!
A couple of cheeky time-lapse videos of me applying dark lipstick and a bright red lippy too.
Both colours are quite tricky to wear with a 45-year-old asymmetric face!

However, as I was saying to a friend the other day, if we don't start experimenting with brighter and bolder lipsticks NOW when are we going to get round to it?

When we are pushing up the daisies??
The time is now people.
Seize the day.
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Thursday, 13 June 2019

Yellow, Peach and White | Sustainable Fashion

Layered Summer Outfit | Peach, White & Yellow | Fake Fabulous

We don't always get the weather we want, do we?
It may be summer but it's COLD!

The Scottish summer is predictably unpredictable.

Today I'm layering up but keeping things soft and summery.

I'm also keeping my whole look as ethical as possible.
I'm wearing the most sustainable fashion ever.
And you can too...
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Tuesday, 11 June 2019

Goodbye Spring, Hello Summer! 7 Favourite SPRING outfits

7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous
It's time to say goodbye to spring and hello to the Scottish summer.
Cheerio to thermal baselayers.
Hello to bare ankles and maybe even a spot of suncream!

Here is a round-up of my favourite spring outfits.
Which is your favourite?

1. Vintage spots and OTK boots.

7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous

This look is my favourite!
I love this (maybe) vintage dress, the boots and the layers.
Pop over to the original post... Vintage dress outfit... and find out the story behind it.

2. Tartan and Denim.

7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous

This multicoloured Tartan dress was a gift from a friend.
Isn't it great when a dress fits perfectly?

Not just on your body but into your life!

This dress seems to go with anything and fit in anywhere.
Don't you just love that?

3. Hero Cardigan.


7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous

This outfit is all about My ugly cardigan.
One of my favourite pieces of clothing, and it only cost me £1!
It's certainly a marmite item (love it or hate it, no middle ground).
I love it but it's hardly 'fashionable'.
Or is it?

Imagine how delighted I was to find a recent article in Vogue all about the ugly, chunky 'HERO' cardigan making a comeback.
The uglier the better!

4. Matchy Matchy...


7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous


I love this casual matched up look.
So simple and comfortable.
The post is all about matching accessories without looking twee.
Read 4 ways to match your accessories HERE.

5. Cold spring pastels.


7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous

I wore this Pastel Outfit when I wanted to lighten things up a little but it was far too cold to take off the layers.
I'm layered up to the max here, nice and cosy.

6. Bold Red Trousers.


7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous

I love this Red trouser outfit.
Red trousers are so easy to mix and match with different pieces to create completely different looks.
A classic in any wardrobe!

7. Purple and Pink statement knit.


7 favourite spring outfits | Fake Fabulous

It's another statement knit.
(There seems to be a theme here!)
Bold and brash.
This time my statement knit is a jumper that is perfect for lazy day outfits.
A jumper that does all of the work for you... what's not to love?!




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Sunday, 9 June 2019

I'll be the Judge of that! | #fakeituntilyoumakeit LINK UP


How many times have you heard the phrase:

"You shouldn't Judge!"

Or listened to some self-righteous person telling you:

"I never judge people, it's just wrong!"

Hmmmm....
They're kidding themselves on.

The fact that they feel the need to boast about their lack of judgemental behaviour means they're judging you, and your intelligence!

Making judgements is a normal part of life.
Human nature.
Instinctive.
An essential tool for survival.

We judge situations.
We constantly risk assess.
We judge people that we meet.
Are they trustworthy?

Think about the importance of first impressions.

Not judging (or making the wrong judgement) can be a dangerous business.
Sometimes serious.

However....
It's important to make our normal-human-nature judgements then be sufficiently open-minded to be flexible.

Flexible judgements are the only way!

A first impression might leave you thinking someone is horribly rude but you may later discover that person has autism and their perceived rudeness was just them being literal.

You might think someone else is arrogant only to find out they were nervous and full of self-doubt.

You might make a judgement about someone's appearance:

"Look at that fat person, they must be so lazy!" 
"Get off your bum, put down that pizza and go for a walk!"

Or...

"Look at that skinny person, I bet they never eat!" 
"Step off that treadmill and go and eat a pie for goodness sake!"

Judging happens, but it can be unfair.
Those people will have a story.
A whole host of background issues.
Inflexible judging is as dangerous as not judging at all.

Let me tell you a funny(ish) story...

I was at the gym the other day (surprise!) standing outside a class talking to an instructor, my good friend and two other regulars.
The instructor was looking for suggestions so we were all discussing tracks we loved and disliked.

The topic of lunges came up.
{Cue a collective groan!}
Then I pipe up:

"Oh, I LOVE lunges!"

My friend laughs:

"You're just weird!"

The other women laughed too.
Then one of the women says to me... with her lip slightly curled and her tone serious:

"Lunges?!.{eyeroll}" 
"Of course, it's alright for you...your legs are too skinny." 
"Lunging is easy when you're so skinny!"

{"Too skinny"?!
Ouch... that took me back to hurtful comments like "knotty cottons" and "Chicken legs" from my childhood.}

I laughed.
Not because it was funny.
But because I'm used to these kinds of comments and can't be bothered getting defensive about them.
What's the point?

Even though comments like these are not okay.
I still accept them.

I'm sure she didn't mean to be so venomous.
I bet she was even joking (a little).
Maybe she thought it was some kind of compliment to be called skinny?

I realise that her comment is not really anything to do with me.
It's more about her and her relationship with her own body.

But these comments DO still hurt.

The most surprising part of it all was that my friend was very offended on my behalf and got VERY angry.
She rightly pointed out that the woman had no right to judge me.

I might have a background story.
What if I had a medical condition or was recovering from an eating disorder.
Or have other phycological issues that nasty comments about my physicality might push me into an unhealthy place.

{I HAVE been in an unhealthy place and it's not pretty... it's also a waste of time.}

What if you'd said to her:

"No wonder you hate lunges, your legs are too fat!" 
"You weigh too much!"

Everyone would have been up in arms!
You'd have been thrown out of the gym, barred.
Put in the stocks and pelted with rotten eggs
BUT it's okay to call you skinny?!
I'm so annoyed!

I must tell you that I felt very grateful for her protective anger.
What a fab friend.

And she's spot on!
I shouldn't have to accept comments like that.
No one should.

Why do some women think it's okay to tear each other down?

Are you a flexible judger?
Have you been on the receiving end of body shaming comments?
Or, have you ever skinny-shamed someone without realising it could hurt them?
I'd love to know!


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Saturday, 8 June 2019

A Dress You'll Wear to Death | Leopard & Zebra

Leopard midi dress, zebra belt and tan sandals | Fake Fabulous

This wrap dress has been worn SO many times I was convinced you'd be sick of the sight of it here at Fake Fabulous.

When I was wearing it again today (yawn) and decided to take photographs I thought Id better check to see how many times it had been on the blog.

I didn't want to bore you to death with outfits on repeat.

Imagine my surprise to see that it had only been featured once in this winter outfit.

ONCE?
Blimey.... it feels like I've not had it off my back.
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