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Wednesday, 22 August 2018

Embarrassing Ageing | My Pelvic Floor is Shot to Pieces!

Embarrassing Ageing | My Pelvic Floor is Shot to Pieces!

Disclaimer: If you're any of the following, you may want to move on and read another post...

  • Squeamish and easily offended.
  • Get embarrassed talking about the female body, ageing, birth.... etc.

Please click away immediately, you certainly won't want to read any more!

However, if you're interested/curious about what could happen to your undercarriage then please continue reading...

Embarrassing Ageing | My Pelvic Floor is Shot to Pieces!

Okay, I have to start with a confession.
Despite the sensational title, my pelvic floor is not exactly in tatters.

{Although, I would forgive it if it was because it's been in some serious battles over the years.
"Pelvic Floor V Birthing BIG babies"... Babies win every time!
Any mums will know exactly what I'm talking about.}

My pelvic floor has, however, seen better days and I have been known to feel like I REALLY need to pee NOW, especially during hay fever season or when I'm suffering from a bad cold.
Atishoo.... oops!

I used to blame being a mum, but being pregnant/childbirth does not automatically mean you will be crossing your legs every time you cough.

Neither is it inevitable you're going to be peeing yourself as you get older.
Leaking urine is NOT normal at any age.

It's time we all stopped being embarrassed, feeling judged or ashamed, and just got on with chatting about it.

Goodness knows we women talk openly about MOST things don't we?
Why not this issue?

I'll make a start...

Things that can adversely affect the pelvic floor... {i.e. when pelvic floors go bad!}:

  • Not exercising/working the pelvic floor... I used to be guilty of this!
  • Over-exercising in general.
  • Being pregnant and childbirth. Especially traumatic births with intervention. (Been there, done that, have the stitches.)
  • Chronic constipation, or regularly straining the bowls.
  • Being overweight with a BMI over 25.
  • Lifting heavy weights, either at work or in the gym.
  • Chronic conditions involving coughing/sneezing.
  • Pelvic injury.
  • Certain medications.
  • Some neurological conditions like MS or Parkinson's.
Pelvic floor issues are not a normal 'part of getting older', inevitable or trivial and they should never be ignored.

Make sure you consult your doctor if you have any of the following symptoms:
  • Constantly needing the toilet.
  • Feeling like you can't empty your bladder/bowls properly.
  • Uncontrolled passing of wind, or opening of the bladder/bowel (with no warning).
  • A heavy/dragging/pulling sensation in the vagina.
  • Pain during sex.
  • Pain in the pelvic area.

What you can do to improve things 'downstairs':

  • Try and lose some weight, if you know you're carrying more than you should.
  • Assess your exercise routine and make adjustments if you're doing too much.
  • Sort out your diet, eat more fibre and vegetables, drink more water... blah blah blah, you know the score. It's the usual story.
  • Do some pelvic floor exercises. You can find instructions online or, you could try the Elvie pelvic floor trainer. (You can use the code IWANTELVIE for 20% off.)
I've been using the Elvie pelvic floor trainer for a couple of weeks now and find it easy to use.
I'm also going to tentatively say my pelvic floor is improving.

Disclosure: This post is NOT SPONSORED.
I was gifted an Elvie trainer BUT I made sure that I was under no obligation to mention it here at Fake Fabulous. I said it was at my discretion and I was not entirely convinced (I tend not to believe marketing, hype or glamourous endorsements).
I was, nevertheless, curious to find out more.
There is no sponsorship here and I made it clear to the company that I would only mention the Elvie if I liked it!
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The Elvie is marketed as a 'fun' way to exercise your pelvic floor.
I had to laugh at this!
Fun is not a word I would use when it comes to exercising the pelvic floor BUT it is certainly more 'fun' than standing squeezing while brushing your teeth.
There is a simple app that takes you through some games and tracks your progress.
The app also sends you daily reminders. Which is very handy if (like me) you tend to forget to do the little things!

The other thing I like is the fact the device looks nothing like a pelvic floor trainer... whatever that is supposed to look like!
The Elvie is contained within a sleek box (which doubles up as it's charging unit) and looks just like a portable charger for a phone.
Completely discrete and chic!

I've been so impressed with it.

I'd love it if you had a comment to make on the subject of this post.
We just don't talk about our pelvic floors enough... especially as it affects 1 in3 of us!
That is a big number to be brushed under the carpet.

Whether you'd like to share your personal story or some advice for others.
Please leave a comment below... 
You can do so anonymously if you'd rather (just log out of your google account and click the anonymous box when leaving your comment).
Id love to hear your thoughts.



  1. Lucky you to be given one of these, as they are very expensive. I would like to know how often you use it after the first couple of months?

    1. Good point Sharon. Maybe it will be like my husband and his exercise bike that became a clothes hanger? I'll keep you posted :o)

    2. There is a book written by two physical therapists called The Bathroom Key. I have done some of the exercises for the last two weeks and have seen an improvement.

    3. Thank you for sharing that m 1 williams! I'll check it out :o)

  2. I really love the unpredictable nature of your posts. This is definitely a subject that women need to learn about and that requires open discussion. Your "warning" at the start of this post was very thoughtful but I really wish that women's health was a subject that we could be as "matter of fact" about as we are about any other health concern.
    Thanks for providing this testimonial about product that can help many women become healthier and more confident

    1. Thank you Judy.
      I have to smile at the lack of comments here, despite the high volume of views.
      Being open and chatting about our pelvic floor still seems too embarrassing for most people.
      I thank you for your comment!

    2. Yet, we are all peeing ourselves! At least I am! ;D A x

  3. I've been wanting to get an Elvie since last spring. I'm going to splurge this next paycheck. My pelvic floor is shot right now. And yes, I need to lose weight...that would help. I try doing the kegel thing, but it's hard to be consistent. I downloaded an's ok, but I have to remember to open the app. I am really hoping the Elvie helps. Why is it so expensive? No matter, I will splurge. I DEFINITELY need it. In fact I'll email you what happened to me. So embarrassing. Well, I might now because it was sooooo awful!

    Off to purchase the Elvie. Thank you for the 20% off!


    1. That's fantastic news Annie... not the peeing bit but the doing something about it.
      The Elvie IS very expensive and I know you can get kegal weights etc for much cheaper but I suppose you're paying for the technology, the app etc.
      The 20% is pretty good too.
      Let me know how you get on.

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  5. Cheers to this post and to you for discussing this topic, Samantha! I do need to exercise my pelvic floor more often. I thought it was all hogwash until I had a bout of complete incontinence when I was pregnant with my youngest. Because my first born was premature, when my water seemingly broke at 26 weeks with my second pregnancy, I rushed off to the emergency room only to discover that I simply had peed my pants. No warning, no feeling like I had to urinate, just plain old emptied my bladder unsuspectingly in my pants. So it is definitely a real thing and exercise definitely helps! Thanks for discussing it!


    1. Gosh Shelbee that must have been terrifying... and then so awful in a different way!
      Thank you SO much for sharing.

  6. I used to joke that my bladder was as strong as a leather football as I could hold a bladder full for ages (always very convenient during dog walks etc). These days it's not so easy but I'm still at the prevention stage - maybe this is good to keep the ooopps moments at bay a little longer... well done Samantha for being so open about this subject xx Maria

    1. Hahahahaha... I have a friend like you Maria. She is like a camel!
      I'm glad to hear you are still doing something positive to prevent any deterioration.
      Don't hang on too long though!! :oP

  7. I think it's brilliant that you've started this conversation, Sam! More of us need to talk about all this stuff. I was at a dinner party the other day and there was a 50 year old woman there (the new girlfriend of a friend) who said that us bloggers really should write more about the issues that affect us, exactly like this, and the menopause. So good for you!
    I'm very curious about this gadget – I do have the occasional I need to pee RIGHT NOW moment too!! And I never had kids!! :/
    Suzy xx

    1. Thank you Suzy.
      You're certainly not alone in the "needing to pee yet not had kids" camp.
      Plenty of people I know are exactly the same.
      One woman had to give up ALL caffeine (yikes).
      Your new acquaintance has a good point ... although I did laugh at the thought of people telling bloggers what they should be writing about.
      We write about whatever interests us at the time... maybe she should start a blog and share her experiences and story?!
      I would check it out for sure.
      Thank you for sharing Suzy... I appreciate it A LOT!

    2. You're absolutely right, Sam! I wish I'd have told her that now!!
      Suzy xx


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