It has come to my attention that I look like a saggy sack of spuds in these trousers!
Don't worry, I'm okay with it, it's just taken a wee while to accept.
There is nothing wrong with the trousers OR my body... we're simply incompatible.
These trousers are fabulous.
I fell in love with them as soon as I saw them.
I LOVE the colour... bold and beautiful.
I LOVE the idea of the paper bag(ish) top and admire the shape on other people.
I really, REALLY wanted these trousers to look amazing on me.
They don't.
{See these trousers styled HERE with clashing colours and stripes.
Covering them up a bit was the best option}
I have tried to make them work, but every outfit I look back on makes me cringe a little... they are so unflattering on my body!
As much as feeling good does make you look good, when something doesn't 'fit' your body no amount of wishing will make it work.
Wanting something to fit doesn't make it so.
{See them looking pretty hideous HERE and HERE}
Styling clothes shouldn't involve tweaking, clever tucking and/or covering up.
Good clothes should look great (and feel) with little to no effort.
For the sake of this (final) pink trouser outfit post I have only shown you the most flattering angles... and even they are not very flattering!
The trousers (and I) deserve better.
It's time to say "Cheerio!"
My body just doesn't fit these trousers... so they have to go.
I'm giving them to my friend (who doesn't know it yet) and they will be amazing on her!!
I'm not blaming my body.
My body is doing a great job of carrying me around and I try to be kind to it... it's grown humans and been kicking about for almost 45 years so it's doing okay.I'm not blaming the trousers either.
They are fabulous and will be amazing on someone else.
Sometimes we're just not compatible, are we?
So why do we hang on to things that aren't right?
{I know I'm not the only one that does it!!}
Please share something you're hanging on to that should really be heading to a new home.
Why are you having trouble letting go?
I'd love to hear about it!
TROUSERS: Topshop (old)... these look gorgeous... I'm tempted to try them!
SHIRT: Topshop, Charity shopped... this bunny one is fun!
FISHBOWL NECKLACE: Etsy
SHOES: Clarks... old as the hills... try these!
BAG: Charity shopped (no idea why someone would get rid of this beauty!). Try this one.
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Great post, I agree that no amount of tweaking will make an incompatible item feel fabulous. I have a pair of very wide-legged, slightly cropped jeans that I bought on a whim and were very expensive. I love them. Yet every time I try to style them, I feel like the waist is getting far too cosy with my ample boobs, giving me an unflattering, humpty dumpy appearance. A pair of high heels would help. But I can't walk in heels. Sigh. They might have to go. But I am not quite ready to give up on them yet! Oh, the other item that just doesn't feel right is a Boden blue jumper with yellow stripes. Just feels wrong every time I wear it, purely because it has buttons up the back, which are just too twee for me. I like a bit more grunge in my outfits ;)
ReplyDeleteOh Rozanne... I hear you!
DeleteI hate to say it but Those trousers and that jumper HAVE to go.
Just do it.
If you don't there's a danger of throwing more good money after bad... you might be tempted to buy things to make them work.
Ditch them, donate them, give them to a friend...you'll feel so much better!
Making room for more grunge.
XXX
Oh... I hear you sista:) I have a short waist and no hips. So anything that looks wonderful on long-waisted people, with hips and a more womanly shape, looks dreadful on me. We should all just agree not to try to shoe horn our bodies into clothes that don't flatter. Good for you to toss those pink pants!
ReplyDeleteI think my bum is too big for these Susan! They need more bag and billow :oP
DeleteI too have a short waist and envy our lovely long waisted sisters... unfortunately, we can't have it all.
It feels good to say "That was a mistake" move on.
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In fact, nothing is right about them... the rise is too short (is my bum stealing too much fabric?) The waist is too wide. The crop is too cropped... it's just a bad match! LOL
DeleteI agree. On Monday I finally tossed a pair of white pants, also with a tie in the waist and a bit of a saggy bum. I kept hanging onto them as they were pure cotton. I have two cotton dresses that are also tent-like and unflattering which I hold on to and swear I am not going to wear them this summer, and then when it is really hot I cave. At least now the pants are now gone! Lise
ReplyDeleteHahahaha... well done for ditching those trousers!
DeleteThe dresses sound practical and when the mercury is boiling sometimes practical wins?!
No such problems in Scotland... often the raincoat wins though!
Maybe this year you'll find something to replace your cotton dresses??
I wish you luck!
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How funny, as I really can't see why you find these trousers unflattering, and I think they look great on you! But, I do know how it is - when you don't feel comfortable wearing something (for whatever reason), there's no getting away from it, and they do just have to go!
ReplyDeleteI really can't wear tapered trousers of any description, as they just highlight how disproportionately large my bottom is. They look so sleek, smart and stylish on other people, but I'm really not built for them!
You are kind Fran but you are right... it's all about how they make us feel.
DeleteTapered trousers are tricky to style. I think it's more to do with the length of your waist than the size of your bum. Big bums are SO fashionable just now... the bigger and rounder the better.
As a short-waister these trousers are just not doing me any favours.
Are you short waisted too?
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Yes, I'm short waisted too, and I've also never had a flat stomach (not even when I was a size 8 teen) - which makes finding clothes (especially trousers) that both fit and flatter me even more fun!
DeleteAnd I think this is the first time that my figure has ever been fashionable! Ah well, maybe being in my forties isn't so bad then... :D
Yay! Big bums are very "in"... show it off :o)
DeleteI'm trying to grow mine more!
I know what you mean about never having a flat tummy.
Mine has always has a curve to it... even before having my children.
My youngest used to pat it an call it "soft and crinkly mummy belly" when she was little.
I supposed that made me accept it and love it too.
I've certainly earned it and happily wear a bikini!
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I think that's the first time I've ever heard anyone wanting to expand their bum! I've more than enough to go around, and would be happy to share, but sadly for both of us it doesn't work like that! :D
DeleteI agree with Fran, I think the trousers look good! I have a leather dress, a black leather dress, that I adore. I mean really adore! But it doesn't look good on me!!! Why not???? No idea, but it's the feeling. I thought I looked cool in it, but I will never give it away. It's mine, I can watch it in the closet😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteThat leather dress sounds FABULOUS Nancy!!
DeleteCould you get it altered to feel more like "you"???
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Good for you for tossing them into the donate bin, Samantha. If they don't work, then they don't work, and it's not us or the clothes, it's just how it goes sometimes. Because I shop so much thrift, I often get things that I think will be just right and then they are...NO, ugh, bad, get it off me! I recently tossed a blouse that I had to fuss with all day - I wanted to rip it off at work!
ReplyDeleteOh I HATE that Sheila!
DeleteA fussy item that need pulled and poked and fixed all of the time.
So annoying.
You've just reminded me of a blouse I have just like that... I'm going to look it out and hand it to my friend as well.
Thank you for that! XXX
The pink of the pants though! Such a fab shade, and I love how it goes so well with that printed shirt (LOVE that shirt). Perhaps you'll find a pair of pants in the same colour, as it really does suit your vibrant self, Samantha!
ReplyDeleteI can relate, I still have some clothing pieces that I bought because I thought I could make them work but sadly they just don't (including a cute raw hem knee-length dress that I just can't fit into my modest outfits and a pair of white pants that are sort of see-through). The only reason I hold on to them is I haven't found anyone who could give them the love they deserve, but maybe I just haven't been looking hard enough!
xo, Liyana | Affordorable
That's so annoying Liyana!
DeleteDoes the dress not sit well with legging/skinny trousers/ jeans??
Meh.
I have trousers with that see-through vibe too... not great for non-modest dressing either!!! the outline of undies is never a good look.
I'm going to look those ones out and donate them too!
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If trousers with pleats in front become vogue once again I swear I will NOT wear them. I think that is the problem here Sam! What women needs added bulk at the waistline and over the tummy?? This style looks good on super thin models only.
ReplyDeleteThe color is wonderfully representative of your color genius!
It could be that Judy... but I love pleats on other trousers. Maybe the others fit better all over and therefore the pleats hang as they should and not awkwardly over my mummy tummy.
DeleteMeh.
So annoying.
My friend has zero tummy (despite also being a mum of three)... she will be fabulous in them!
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sorry that the pants didn't work, I also love its color!. But those cropped baggy pants are really tricky and create strange proportions! Anyway, you look lovely!
ReplyDeleteI've tried some culottes and wide pants which are so trendy and cool, but they make me look ginormous and short. I still love the look, but I've had to recognize it's not for me!
besos
Culottes are tricky Monica... and can cause alarm when you fist put them on. The proportions are all wrong.
DeleteI still love them though and wonder if there is a pair out there for you too??? Hmmmmm.... I'm having a look.
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I hear where your coming from and have similar issues with a pair of grey trousers that I keep pulling out - but really hate them. I know the answer is to find another pair, but it's proving hard so far. I do think yours are lovely and what a great colour. Thanks for hosting and I do hope you'll stop by and join the #giveaway on my blog along with the #linkup every Thursday. Jacqui Mummabstylish
ReplyDeleteIt's annoying isn't it Jacqui!?
DeleteCurses to those grey trousers. ;oP
You'll eventually give up on them and hand them over to someone else... and it feels good.
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My opinion, but I think the pants are fine. The brown shoes and handbag with them? Not so much. A white tailored blouse with grey flats would be pretty. Or a navy top. The bright pants need to shine like beautiful red lips do- without a lot of competition.
ReplyDeleteYou're a cutie- keep having fun with your clothes!
Thank you for your thoughts on these trousers Jackie.
DeleteI had a step back and thought about plain white/navy... and your shoe suggestion.
I agree, that would look lovely... but just not on me!! :oP
I love how we are all so different.
That's what fashion and personal style is all about, isn't it?
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OMG I have problems with this shape of trouser too Sam. They make everything look bigger, every curve, curvier and hey I know how slim you are! Yes, the colour is fab, but we need all of it to work, not just one bit. Well done for letting them go. I'm about to release a whole sack of clothes to our local fete later this month and will be very happy to see someone look better than me in them! All the more room for me to replenish my collection.
ReplyDeleteHave a great week my dear!
Anna x