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Monday, 18 April 2016

What can we do about Ageing? | Beauty Over 40.

Getting older is great fun, right?

Ask any woman, over 35, and she will tell you that being older has a lot going for it.
  • With age comes a wealth of experience.
  • Experiencing life means the development of wisdom.
{Although, to be honest, I am still waiting for my wisdom to develop. When I am 50, maybe?}
  • Getting older means we get to know ourselves well. We know what suits us. We know what our strengths and weaknesses are. We know our limitations.
  • Age brings confidence, and a positive attitude to life.

Of course, all of this this is great.
However, when you are confronted with your 'morning face' and a magnifying mirror?
The truth is scary.

Faced with the reality of ageing, you might happily trade in all of that wisdom for smooth, flawless, skin.

    Ageing has it's challenges.

    Unfortunately, as we age, mother nature has some cruel challenges for us to overcome:
    • The hair on our heads will probably get thinner, duller and harder to manage.
    • Our eyes start to fail, so these unwanted hairs go undetected. Unfortunately, the only people who can't see this offending fuzz is us!
    • We might get age spots. On our hands and (like me) on the sides of our faces too. Lovely!
    • Skin tags (and strange lumps) can sprout out of nowhere.
    • Eventually, our gums receded and our teeth start to resemble a grave yard.
    • Everything slides South... Bottoms, the flesh on top of our knees, skin (everywhere) the dreaded bingo wings appear, our boobs can resemble either puppy-dogs ears or water-filled balloons (depending on their size).
    • Not to mention all of those aches and pains that creep up on us.

    Depressing stuff, eh?

    But don't panic!
    If you have enough money (and time) there are many fabulous procedures that can 'fix' your face, and all your wobbly bits too.

    In the blink of an eye.
    (Almost) Pain free.
    Some can even be done on your lunch hour!

    Well....not really.

    With every cosmetic procedure comes risks and potential failure.
    Some can cause serious health problems.
    Of course, there are some (seemingly) amazing results out there.
    But, bare in mind that facelifts can look really odd in real life and (ironically) look better on younger women, in their 40's as opposed to women in their 60's.
    Filers can go horribly wrong.
    Even something as common as botox has it's risks.
    Also, these procedures need maintenance.

    So, what can we do to look younger?

    Answer...(and you won't want to hear it)....NOTHING!
    Hang on a minute!
    Aren't there hundreds of lotions, serums, gels, sprays and dyes out there, to turn back time?

    Can't we get "things done" that will bring back our youthful looks?

    Well, the big cosmetics companies (and pharmaceutical brands) will tell you, YES! 
    You need to spend a small fortune on:
    • Specialist cleansing systems.
    • DNA-infused face creams (or ones with snail slime in them).
    • Buffing machines.
    • Gadgets that electrocute your face.
    • Expensive masks, serums and eye creams.
    • Youth-giving foundations.

    {The list goes on and we need to remortgage the house to pay for it all}

    And, goodness knows we (as women) buy into it!
    I don't mind admitting that I am a sucker for a deliciously scented lotion in beautiful packaging.

    {I am going to play the Scientist card here, sorry}
    Contrary to what the big brands would have us believe, most of the creams on the market contain the same basic ingredients, whether they cost £1 or £100.

    Yes, of course, there are added extras in some, but the basics are the same.

    I am not saying don't buy the pricey creams.
    If you love them, do it!
    If it means you spend a moment pampering yourself by applying these lovely lotions, then go ahead and enjoy it.

    {Massaging the face is very beneficial}

    However, if you are on a tight budget and think that you need these creams, you don't!
    Buy that basic cream (like Nivea) and spend time massaging it it in, just like an expensive one.
    You will notice a difference in your skin.

    Beauty secrets (that are not so secret).

    • Smile and try to be positive. This is the most important secret of all!
    Has anyone has ever read Roald Dahl's book "The Twits"? His description of Mrs Twit is a beauty lesson that all women should listen to:
      "If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until it gets so ugly you can hardly bear to look at it.
      A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."

      Wise words indeed!!

    • Drink plenty of Water. I am guilty of not drinking enough. BUT, I do drink gallons of tea and I hope that counts!
    • Don't eat too much sugar (including fruit sugars). Sugar really does age you. If I have a heavy night of eating cake or crisps I wake up with a puffy and bloated "Carbohydrate face".
    • Eat well. Don't eat (too much) processed muck. I am not going to pretend that I don't eat junk food.  I do, just not all of the time.
    • Sleep....{if only}...but WOW what a difference a decent sleep makes. Sleep is the most powerful beauty tool. Forget spa treatments and £200 creams. A night of unbroken sleep is the BEST.
    • Clean your face. Not necessarily with pricey lotions, just do it WELL with something that does not irritate you. A double cleanse works wonders too.
    • Exercise. I am not saying go crazy at the gym, just talking a brisk walk boosts circulation and brings more blood to your face. Great for oxygenation of your facial tissue and removing toxins. You also get to clear your head AND it stops your bum sliding down the back of your thighs! Win-win really.
    • Don't smoke. You have heard it a thousand times, and it is true. Nobody wants a mouth like a cats bum.
    • Don't drink too much booze. A glass is good , a bottle is not. Drinking REALLY shows up on the face, I know, I have seen it first hand. Think of the "drunks" portrayed in faces, broken veins, purple noses, bloated, puffy big beer belly (yes women get beer bellies too) enjoy your tipple but don't go OTT.
    • Protect your face. Shield your skin from harsh weather. Wear sunglasses and a hat in summer, wear a scarf in winter. Easy.
    • Makeup is your friend! Especially when it comes to brows and eye makeup. I know how pale and "old" I look when my makeup is not up to scratch (You can see this in some of my photographs). There are so many tutorials online, but my favourite is Lisa Eldridge. Look her warned, watching her videos is addictive!

    If ageing is getting you down, remember that real beauty is ageless.
    It may be a cliche, but it is true. A fun personality, and sense of humour counts so much much more.

    If all else fails...
    Here is a picture of a cute puppy.
    Not a very good beauty product, but a puppy never fails to make me smile.
    And, everyone looks better with a smile on their face!

    Do you have any unusual beauty tips?
    What is your routine?
    Are you guilty of any beauty sins?

    Please share in the comments I love hearing from you!
    Or tweet me @samantha4blair.


    1. Great post! I'm afraid I'm clueless when it comes to beauty routines, and Nivea is just about the only thing I use daily. But the other stuff, exercise and sleep, at least it's something we can control (to some extent, at least).

      1. Sleep is something I dream about Tiina (pardon the pun)... I have bought VERY expensive creams over the years, as well as the cheap ones...I have never noticed a difference. It is all in the application, I think. I would rather buy shoes with that £100 ! :op XXX

    2. You're definitely right about the smile---I truly think it's one of the most magical things any person can do not only to make one look better, but to make other people feel better!
      It was amazing as a cosmetic dentist to see the role that creating a beautiful smile could make on a person---it really could change their entire persona!!
      As for aging---I think it's time we all get on the bandwagon that wrinkles are great and aging is a privilege!!
      Good way to start off this movement Samantha!!

      1. Of course Jodie! Looking after your teeth...I forgot about that...Duh!
        You are right. Great teeth can lift the whole face as much as bad ones can age it. I have not had any work on my teeth, I just brush them :oD. They are not perfect, but I am happy enough with how I smile. I don't mind them a bit wonky...that can look quite charming...but clean is essential.
        A great point, Jodie...thank you.

    3. What a fabulousl and honest post! I completely agree with every word apart from the wisdom bit - I am 53 and still waiting!! Hey, maybe 60??!!

      1. Oh no Astrid! I was hoping it was arriving at 50. Ah well, I will continue to be clueless for a while then?! :oP XXX

    4. Smile! Best tip yet!! I will admit to something though. I do love myself a little Botox! I know, I know. No one really ever admits to this toxic agent, and I am aware it's putting poison in my face, but I love it! I have this little--what am I saying!?--huge (to me) crack in-between my brows. It drives me crazy! Like, I really, really don't like it. So, I inject Botox there. I can only afford it twice a year, but it makes me feel so much better. It has also helped that pesky wrinkle that used to be there.

      I am an emotional Pisces. My face shows it. If I'm feeling something, you can read it all over my face. I'm also a worrier. So, not being able to furrow my brows together--oh, it offers me such relief! And I can still smile!! I've been poking this little spot between my bros since living in India, so that's like since...oh 2008 or so!

      Anyway, cat's out of the bag. I hope you don't think less of me. What you see is what you get with Annie--as you know!

      And, yes, I will continue to SMILE!

      Love, Ann

      1. Annie, I could never think less of you!
        Thank you for your honest comment. I am sure if anyone is considering botox (I have thought about it but the scientist in me gets SCARED) they will find your experience very helpful.
        I too an an open book when it comes to my facial expressions.
        My friends tell me that they don't even need to ask my opinion on face has already given it away!
        I too have a furrow between my brows...sometimes it is worse if I am concentrating (hard) or worrying.
        Or, if I am angry!
        I don't like it but I am not ready to do anything about it (yet)....I never say never though.
        (you can get a bit of botox in your face at the dentist, here)
        I massage the area and sometimes use "frownies" at night.
        I figure that my face is getting lined and I might as well embrace it...or at least try to get on with it!
        Maybe more bright lippy is the answer?? :oD

    5. This particular edition of you blog is just chock full of heart, humor, reality, honesty, humility and WISDOM. You don't write this kind of stuff without the ability to reflect from the perspective of having lived and learned. You dear and darling Samantha have done both with charm, grace, and a spunky smile.
      Thankyou for this edition. Also thanks for telling us about Lisa Eldridge. I was up til 1:00 AM gleaning bits of makeup wisdom!!:D

      1. Thank you for your (very) kind words, Judy. They really mean a lot to me. XXX
        Oh....apologies for showing you Lisa! Can you believe she is in her 40's?! I couldn't. She looks amazing (her voice is really soothing) and I love the way she makes everything so easy and achievable by people without gigantic makeup budgets.

    6. you're really right about all those simple things we can (and must) do, like sleeping, drinking water, cleaning our faces and eating well!, simple things but not Little things!
      I'm trying to embrace my own 'mature woman' body, with all its strange new symptoms, spots and hormonal rollercoaster!. My mom, my stepmother and some friends are being very supportive!
      My best trick is using red lipstick and sunnies, it's better than any concealer!!. And I'm a huge fan of sunblock too!

      1. Sunnies and Lippy! Easy peasy Monica...and you are right. Today I am ussing those (pink lippy though) instead of "real makeup" as we have SUNSHINE here :oDDD XXXX

    7. I love that quote from The Twits! It's spot on. I actually had 'a moment' with the mirror this morning - I had applied my make up and was pulling all of the obligatory faces, as you do; The smile, the pout, the eyes etc to see if the make up had done it's job of making me look like I still have a pulse after a night of broken sleep.. and I felt that it was 'acceptable'. I then caught sight of myself unawares with a relaxed and normal expression (one that I'd most likely be seen wearing!) and the difference was quite a shock! Ugh! That's how I really look! What a difference a smile makes. Spent the rest of the day fake laughing and grinning like a loon.. #brillblogposts (Louise)

      1. Hahahaha...sorry to laugh Louise, but I know exactly what you mean! I often get that moment looking through blog photos. My "normal" face (I think it is called resting bitch face) looks like a miserable old lady :oP. Keep smiling!! Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. XXX

    8. Also another tip is to embrace not hide the muffin top...Spanx underwear is not your friend and will compress your internal organs. I feel the older I get the less makeup I use, maybe just a little cream on the under eye bags and I'm ready to rock.

      1. I totally agree about shapewear! I am NOT a fan of being restricted and squeezed. Anyway, it's harder to smile when you are uncomfortable. I always make up my eyes nowadays, even just a little, it give my face a bit of definition. Thank you for popping over and leaving a comment. XXX

    9. "Nobody wants a mouth like a cats bum." HA HA HA HA HA Truer words were never spoken :-)


    10. I totally agree with Roald Dahl's words. So true.
      A smile makes everyone look better... discovered the reason why I always smile or laugh on my blog.
      And yes I am guilty of beauty sins: I had my eyelids lifted, my waist sucked and the bottom part of my face pulled back. I survived everything with no complications, had no pain whatsoever but you are darned right that it involves risks. I was just stupid (to take the risks) and lucky (for nothing bad happening).
      And after using Clinque skin care products for 40 (FORTY) years I switched to a super market brand which is really good as consumer research tells me. Because I agree, basically they are all the same.
      Why did I do plastic surgery? Because I aged badly before my time and I look droopy, worn out, sad and sick (loads of people kept asking me "Are you ill?"). And I did my waist as it grew 3 inches in one year. Couldn't handle that. I didn't how to dress myself anymore.

      1. Thank you for leaving such an open and honest comment Greetje!
        It really does mean a lot to hear from someone who has been through some of these cosmetic procedures. I can understand feeling like your face and body is giving up on you and wanting to do something about it. I am glad everything worked out for you and you had no problems. You were not stupid in my mind, just incredibly brave...but lucky? Yes, and thank goodness for that! Thank you for taking the time to leave such a helpful comment. XXX

    11. Smiles! Yes! That's the key. I don't like lotions on my skin, of any kind, unless my skin in painfully dry. But I'll never commit to a certain way of doing things either. Tomorrow may be different. Great post! Yeah, that unexpected reflection in a mirror - YIKES!

      1. Hahahaha... it's the phone accidentally going onto camera mode when I'm looking down into it thinking... "Who is that old bag?...Ooops it's me!" LOL.
        Smiling is the best beauty treatment, for sure :o)


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