Style Tips and Fun with Fashion

Tuesday, 17 April 2018

How to Wear What YOU Want to a Wedding | No Dress or Heels Required!

Cream suit and Sparkles | Wedding Bride Trouser Outfit, over 40

There's no escaping the fact that weddings can cause stress levels to skyrocket.
There are (what feels like) a thousand things to organise and that's just for the guests!

If you're the Bride, Groom, Mother of the Bride/Groom...
Stand clear.
Heads might explode!

The last thing you need at this stressful time is a style crisis.

However, the 'outfit' can sometimes cause a lot of worry and anxiety.
Especially if you're one of the main wedding party.
All eyes are on you, and the pressure is high to get it right.

If you are a mature bride then things can get really tricky.
No wonder there are often tears and tantrums!

Any women can feel pressured to conform to certain style rules when it comes to certain occasions, especially those of us that are over 40.

Even if your heart tells you to do your own thing, the pressure can be so intense that convention eventually wins.
Let's face it, no one wants to upset anyone, look inappropriate, like mutton dressed as lamb, or (worse in my opinion) frumpy.

Just look up "What to Wear to a Wedding" and you'll be bombarded with a mind-boggling number of things NOT to do!

Styling for the 'Mother of the Bride' is a great example of what people expect you to be wearing...

"Pay attention! 
You MUST follow these rules ladies... 
Out comes the shift dress, matching bolero jacket and plume-like fascinator. 
Add killer (literally) heels and a matching bag. 
The hair gets an industrial strength blow dry, or a twee up-do... half a can of hairspray to finish thank you! 
Makeup is 'professionally' applied (possibly with a trowl) and there's maybe even a fence-paint-style spray tan, and 3 feet acrylic nails tips!? 
Better get the cheque book out girls... or organise a bank loan!"

BUT, what if none of that is YOU.

What if the thought of conforming to the traditional 'Wedding Clone' brings you out in a cold sweat?

What if you feel awkward in a dress?
Or, you feel silly in a bolero jacket?
What if fascinators leave you confused?

What if high heels give you the fear, and you totter around in them like a newborn calf.
What if you can't face the agony of spending hours in shapewear?

Don't worry!

You CAN wear what you want and not upset the conventional apple cart.

{Disclaimer: You'll probably upset someone BUT you can't please everyone, so why sweat it?}
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Saturday, 14 April 2018

Yes, it's a Cropped Top over 40! Light Relief at the #fakeittilyoumakeit LINK UP

Denim A-line Skirt, Cropped linen top & tan sandals | Fake Fabulous

Cropped tops over 40?

Some say "No".
I say...

YES!
(No surprise there.)
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Tuesday, 10 April 2018

What's Wrong with Dungarees and Short Hair?

Dungarees and Short Hair, over 40 | Fake Fabulous

I'm not ashamed to admit that I've been living in my dungarees over the past few days.
They're the perfect 'loungewear' but still cool enough to be seen out in public.

{Unlike those awful saggy joggers that are lurking in some of our wardrobes... you know what I'm talking about!}

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Sunday, 8 April 2018

How to Spot a Liar | #fakeituntilyoumakeit LINK Up

How to spot a liar | Fake Fabulous

I'm no good at lying.
Of course, I give it a go now and again but anyone who knows me will tell you that I have a face like an open book.
I'm pathetic at poker, liar dice and anything that requires a 'bluffing' face.

If you ask me a question I'll blurt out the truth before my brain switches on.
Friends only ask my opinion when they really want it.

Yesterday, for example, the instructor at the gym looked at me and asked:
 "Have I got a sweaty bum?" 
(A strange question but she was squatting with her back to me at the time!)
I automatically said "Yes"... because she did!
BUT, a girl turned to look at me in horror and said:
" No, of course you havent!!" shaking her head in my direction.
Oops...
Someone was not impressed with my answer!

Sometimes when I'm asked a question by someone who doesn't know me I try (really hard) to stay silent but, unfortunately, the answer is always written all over my face.
I just can't hide the truth.

I'm not saying I'm an angel, I've told some major lies in my time (and even got away with some of them) but as I've gotten older I don't even bother.
The truth is always easier and I'm always happy to face the consequences of my actions!

I think that it's pretty easy to spot a liar.
{And, that's not because there'll be smoke coming out of their pants! 🔥}

I've been on the receiving end of plenty of lies over the years.
Some more serious than others, but they've all been a lesson in one way or another.
Experience is a wonderful asset when it comes to spotting a potential deceiver.

I must say, at this point, that sometimes we WANT to believe the lies we are told.
Sometimes we choose to ignore the signs of a lie and pretend the falsehood is real.
If we ignore the lie the truth feels like it isn't happening.
If you've got your head buried in the sand these tricks are worth a jot!

BUT... if you're serious about wanting to get to the truth here's how to spot a liar...

How to spot a liar | Fake Fabulous

HOW TO SPOT A LIAR

Even the most well-practised liars, fibbers and falsifiers have 'tells' (or personal quirks) that give the game away.

They're easy enough to pick up, and simple to catch out.
To root out a deception, just follow these steps...

Ask your question.
Read the response... check for the tell-tale signs of a liar (below).
Stay calm.
Ask again... and again, if necessary.
The truth will out!

The 3 Behavioural 'Tells' of a Liar

1. Pausing too Long

Unless your speaking to someone who has problems with social interactions, or you're asking about a situation from the past, pausing is an obvious sign of a liar forming a lie.
Anyone with nothing to hide will immediately answer.
An honest reaction requires no thought.

2. Giving Vague/Waffling Answers 

Long-winded waffling answers are a sure sign of a lie.
As is trying to laugh the situation off, or being overly "sympathetic".
In fact, any over-acting should be seen as suspicious.

Over-egging the pudding is never necessary.
The truth is always so much more simple to share, and requires no waffle!

3. Answering your Question with Another Question.

This can seem sympathetic and sweet, or defensive and hostile, depending on how it's done.
BUT... don't fall for it!

Whatever you do don't start answering the (alleged) liar's questions, bring it back to your question by saying:
"I'll be happy to answer that when you answer my question"

If these behaviours need back up, try looking for the following physical signs...

6 Physical Symptoms of a Liar

Even the most ruthless and seasoned tricksters show some of these physical signs.
Well practised liars may think they can pull the wool over our eyes BUT, with practice, you'll be able to sniff them out with ease.

1. Sweating

Beads of sweat on the top lip or forehead are a dead giveaway!
Any liar worth his salt can keep his cool so this might not happen, but don't worry, there are plenty more signs to look out for...

2. Coughing/Fake Coughing

Unless the person normally has a cough or course!

3. Eyes Flicking Side to Side, Excessive Blinking or Looking at the Floor

Why can't they look you in the eye?
Hmmm.. I wonder!

4. Excessive Gaze-Holding

A more cock-sure liar will know that a lack of eye-contact is a dead giveaway so they'll overcompensate by looking you straight in the eye and holding your gaze.
They think they have you fooled!

If this eye contact seems slightly uncomfortable, awkward or just different to normal.. smell a rat!

5. Covering the Mouth with a Hand/Fingers in the Mouth/Face Scratching or Touching the Ears

Any pulling, poking and rubbing of the face is a sure sign something fishy is going on.
Unless the person has just been attacked by a swarm of bees of course!

6. Pulling a Wierd Asymmetric Expression

This is the "tell" all of my family have!
The asymmetric face-pull.
I find it hilarious.

You'll know it when you see it in other people.
The mouth goes weird.
The face looks odd.
Half grimace... or is it wind??

Liar liar pants on fire!!
This one only really works with children... or idiots!

Why not have fun with a friend and try deliberately lying to each other?
You can see if you can spot any of these "tells"?
I'd love to hear about it!

Of course, this "Guide to Spotting a Liar" is just a bit of fun BUT if you have any tips and tricks to spot an un-truth (or a porky-pie) please share it in the comments!

Last Week Nancy caught my eye with her leopard skirt and patent boots... no word of a lie there!

It's a simple look, but full of attitude and feminine S-A-S-S!
Fabulous.
See her full post HERE.




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Friday, 6 April 2018

Me? Sarcastic? Never! | Graphic Culottes & Slogan Tee, over 40

Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit! | Slogan Tee & Culottes | Fake Fabulous

I'm feeling feisty today!
This outfit is acting like the stripes on a wasp... a warning to anyone who thinks they can take me on.

Back off.
Don't even think about it.
The Sass-O-Meter is off the scale.

(Pst... It's all just a big attitude bluff, but no one knows that apart from you!)

Outfits like this one are a great way to appear confident and in control.
A mixture of patterns, textures and prints.
A little bit of humour.
A little bit of attitude.
A lot of fun!
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Tuesday, 3 April 2018

Stop Weight Shaming | Why it's Okay to Want to Gain Weight as Well as Lose it

Stop weight shaming | Fake Fabulous

It's very wet (and bitterly cold) today so fashion photos are out of the picture (pardon the pun) and cosy joggers are the order of the day!

However, I've turned this to my advantage because I've got the chance to make a start on a new project that's been neglected.

I had planned to start a "Health and Fitness" series a while back, and today's weather is the perfect opportunity to make a start!


I'm going to go straight in and tell you a secret...

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Sunday, 1 April 2018

Why I'll Never "Make it Big" as a Blogger


While having a catch-up with my favourite blogs, I began to think about the women behind these blogs and what makes them (and their blog) a success.

Success is, of course, a subjective thing.
One person's idea of a successful blog may involve a small circle of loyal readers who regularly interact with the content.

Another person's idea of success may be massive numbers of followers on social resulting in oodles of likes, comments and click-throughs.

Success could also mean making money from your blog, whether that's just extra shoe money, a comfortable living or the mega-bucks!

Some people may strive for all three, and why not?!

Some blogs are pretty HUGE but don't monetise in any way.
Others are fairly modest in size but manage to be a nice little earner.

Success comes in so many forms.

What makes a blog successful?


What makes a blog, or any other business venture, a success?
It's Simple.
Hard work.

Every successful blogger (and small business owner) works their butt off.
Only the one-in-a-million-super-lucky make it big by pure chance.
Successful bloggers work all-day, every day.
There's no let-up.

If bloggers are not writing, they're editing.
If they're not editing, they're replying to emails and comments.
If they're not checking emails they're keeping on top of social media.
It's non-stop.


Why I'll never make it 'BIG'

1. I say "No, thank you" too often.

If a brand, product or service doesn't float my boat I simply can't bring myself to work with that company.
I do think about what you (as my reader) might be interested in BUT if it really doesn't appeal to me I just can't do it.
No matter how big the carrot they dangle!

Skin care and beauty treatments/products are the items I knock-back the most... simply because (as a scientist) I don't really believe in any of the hype... read this post about ageing and why expensive lotions and potions are just a con!

I recently turned down an offer of visits to a salon for a series of (expensive) treatments that just made me laugh out loud.
I couldn't promote something I knew was a load of baloney.
Putting my name to a procedure that prays on people's insecurities doesn't sit well with me.

I have tried to compromise in the past, and make the best of a collaboration, but I felt like I was cheating you as my reader.
It was an awful feeling of shame.
I don't want to feel like that again.

I still have an open mind, but if my gut says "Nope!" then that's going to be that!

Find out how to say "No" as politely as possible... HERE.

2. I give anything and everything away.

I drive my husband nuts because I tend to give all kinds of things away.
Anything we don't need just gets passed on to friends or donated.

I've always been a person who passes things on to others.
Everything from my wedding dress to baby equipment, to clothes, to furniture.

It's must be in my genes!

When they were newly married my Grandpa gave away the chairs that came with my Nan's new kitchen table (the set they'd been saving up for 2 years to buy!) because a woman on their street had nothing in her house to sit on.
This poor lady's husband was an alcoholic and used to spend all his wages on beer then come home and beat her.
Her house was bare, and she often had nothing for dinner (when I was little I remember my Nan taking food into her on occasion).
My Grandpa was just doing the right thing and my Nan couldn't argue!
The funny thing is that they never bought replacement chairs, and always had a mixture of old secondhand ones.
They were good people for sure!

Now, any savvy business-minded person would tell you to sell any items you don't want/need and never give anything away that could provide a profit.
It makes perfect sense.

Unfortunately, I'm just not cut from that cloth.

I did attempt to sell a few things on eBay a while back but decided to pull out after an unfortunate incident... see the post on my eBay experience HERE.
I'm never going to make my fortune that way so I'll stick to being more like my Grandpa!

3. I'm far too opinionated.

I've got a voice and I feel like I've earned the right to use it.
I'm never going to be someone who is diplomatic, sycophantic or even particularly agreeable.
It's just not in my nature.
If I don't like something I find it SO hard not to just blurt "That's a load of crap!".
Saying nothing is the ONLY answer.

I think diplomacy is a skill most successful bloggers possess and I certainly don't.
I'd love to be more gentle, measured and diplomatic.
BUT...
I just can't sit back and let things happen.
If I feel strongly I have to act and get my tuppence worth in!

So, I've resigned myself to never 'making it big' as a blogger.
I'm okay with that.
In fact, I'm more than happy to accept the fact I'll never be rich either.
Even if Fake Fabulous did hit the big time I'd end up giving everything away anyway.
My Grandpa would be proud!


Of course, you know this post is meant to be a bit of fun.
I still love blogging.
I'm not going to stop anytime soon (fortune or no fortune!) and rest assured if I come across a brand, product or service that I think you will love I will be telling you all about it!


What's your idea of success?
I'd love to hear it!

Now over to you.


Last week something very different caught my eye...
How to dye Easter eggs naturally by Lina at Sew Historically.
What a great idea for the crafty-minded people who like a challenge.
Her methods are so interesting and the outcome is beautiful!




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